Staying positive has been tough in the past year. Since the pandemic began, three times as many American adults have reported cases of anxiety compared with 2019. Thankfully, here are three ways to improve your relationship with the person in the mirror.
Engage in Smarter Self-talk
In his lab at the University of Michigan, Kross asks subjects to talk to themselves in the second person, and to use their own name. Instead of saying, "I'm so nervous about this meeting on Tuesday," say,"(Your name), you seem pretty nervous about this meeting." Kross's research shows that this simple change in language gets people into problem-solving mode quicker.
Repeat a Task You're Good At
When Canadian psychologist Patrick Keelan's helping people with low self-respect, he suggests they regularly take part in activities that use or improve their skills. According to a 14-year study of 7,000 volunteers, you can increase your self-respect at every age if you know you can do well in what you are interested in.
Look back
While some research suggests happiness increases with age, studies also suggest that self-respect reaches the highest point at age 60, then reduces. In a 2015 study from Iran, a group of men who lost their wives 60 and over shared memories of the events and life lessons that had shaped their lives. This "encouraged a sense of identity（身份）and a positive contribution to the next generation," the researchers reported. So, look back by looking through a photo album with loved ones or playing music that reminds you of meaningful moments.
Joe Clark was a non-traditional high school principal, whose unusual way of carrying out rules became the subject of a 1989 Hollywood movie. He gained national attention for his leadership at Eastside High School in Paterson, New Jersey.
"You are not inferior." is what Clark would often tell his students, many of whom were African American or Latino. They grew up in a difficult environment and faced violence, drugs and troubled family life which could prevent them from succeeding in school and in life.
Before becoming an educator, Clark served in the U.S. Amy Reserve. His experience might have influenced how he ran his school. He was known to walk around with a bull horn and a baseball bat. In Clark's first days of working, he expelled 300 students for breaking school rules. The students who remained at school believed that higher expectations were being placed on them. They felt more pressure to perform better.
Some praised his efforts at discipline while others criticized his methods. President Ronald Reagan offered Clark a White House policy adviser position after his success at the high school. In 1988, one teacher, said his methods were more like being in a labor camp than a public high school. In 1989, actor Morgan Freeman played Clark in the movie "Lean on Me." That movie was based on Clark's experiences at Eastside. "Joe was a father figure to school kid," Freeman said. "He was the best of the best in terms of education." Recently, one of Joe Clark's former students, Thomas McEntyre said, "I never really got a chance to... thank him. We are your product. You did not fail us. No matter whether you kicked me out, you did not fail me. You bettered me."
After he retired from Eastside in 1989, Clark wrote a book called "Laying Down the Law: Joe Clark's Strategy for Saving Our Schools." He described how he managed to turn Eastside High from a failing school into a success.
Social media often report concerns like the spread of misinformation, hate speech, and only listening to people that you agree with. That is what we call echo chamber. But how can we really break it apart? One way, make friends, especially friends of another race.
I know most people have few black friends. Many people, many white people, could easily go their whole lives without ever getting to know someone of another race, which requires effort.
Making a new friend is a hard period. Making a friend of another race is harder yet. You don't have common experience and instant friendship. And, for Black people, going out of our way to make a white friend requires trust. And this is not to say that white people should go seek out strangers or acquaintances and say, tell me about your Black experience. Do not do that. That's not friendship. That's a trade.
Real friendship means a willingness to listen carefully, and have your views challenged, because sour Black friend doesn't see the world the same way you do. It's going to require you to do the important work of earning and offering trust, so that, if you make a mistake or misstep, you will have some good will to fall back on even before that, it starts with stepping outside your comfort zone. A different social circle just going to fall in your lap. You're going to have to think carefully about where you live and where your children go to school, the activities you take part in. That's because it's going to be impossible to create a meaningful connection with someone of another race if you're only around people who look like you. So, these friendships are going to require putting actions behind intentions.
China has set new rules limiting the amount of time children can play online games. The rules it children to just three hours of online game playing a week. That is one hour between 8 p.m. and 9 p.m. on Friday, Saturday and Sunday most weeks.
Li Zhanguo has two children aged 4 and 8. Even though they do not have smart phones, they enjoy playing online games. Like many other parents, Li is happy with new government rules. But experts say it is unclear if such policies can help prevent addiction to online games. Children might just get addicted to social media instead. In the end, experts say, parents should be the ones to set limits and support good practices.
There has been a growing concern in China about gaming addiction among children. Government reports in 2018 found that about one in 10 Chinese children were addicted to the Internet. The new rules are part of an effort to prevent young people from spending too much time on unhealthy entertainment. That includes what officials call the "irrational fan culture".
Under the new rules, the responsibility for making sure children play only three hours a day as largely on Chinese gaming companies like NetEase and Tencent. Companies have set up real-name registration systems to prevent young users from going past game time limits. They have used facial recognition technology to check their identities. And they have also set up a program that permits people to report what is against the law. It is unclear what punishments gaming companies may face if they do not carry out the policies. And even if such policies are performed, it is also unclear whether they can prevent online addiction.
A specialist treating internet addiction expects about 20 percent of children will find ways to break the rules by borrowing accounts of their older relatives and find a way around facial recognition. In his opinion, short-video apps such as Douyin and TikTok are also very popular in China. They are not under the same restrictions as games.
How to Be the Best Sports Parent
When you are the parent of a child who loves, and is good at, sports, it can be easy to push them too hard to achieve their goals or to go completely the other way and be too loose. It can be stressful if you are a sports parent looking to do your best.
Give them more independence
If you want your sports-loving child to really achieve their full potential, you need to learn how to loosen the reins (缰绳) a little. The more independence you can give your child, the better they will be able to experiment with techniques. As long as they are not in any danger, it will be a great life lesson for them.
Encourage academic studies
When your child is the best gymnast on the team, it is easy to pin all your hopes on that, but even if your child does get to be a sporting success, having a solid academic education behind them will give them more options if they should not wish to pursue sports. That will help them to succeed even more effectively in their sports.
Have fun
As a family, you should make a point of having as much fun together as possible on and off the field. You can go to games, then go out for pizza, see a movie, and play board games. Not only that, but if you show your child that academic performance is equally as important as sports, it will help to take some of the pressure off them too.
However, if you love them, nurture their talent and let them have lots of fun times among the training, you can probably strike the right balance for them, and for you as a parent too.
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A. No matter what, you just enjoy being together. B. Be the kind of person you would like them to be. C. Smart kids are also better at working out techniques. D. Being the parent of a talented sports girl or boy can be tough. E. Here are a few things that might help you to get the balance right. F. Many parents miss out on the joy of seeing their kids succeed at present. G. They might take a wrong turn, but that will just help to build their character. |
A few years ago, an expensive new car stopped on the Mississippi River Bridge. A(n)1man got out of the car. He wore very2clothes and looked very rich.
He climbed over the rail and under the bridge onto a platform below the roadway preparing to3. Cars started4and the traffic backed up for miles. The5arrived with the fire department, officers and mental health professionals.
They began talking to the man and telling him not to jump. They told him that he might not die. He might become6and have to stay in bed for life. About half a mile back in the traffic there was an old7. An elderly gardener got out of the truck and walked up to8the people were gathered.
He made his way through the people and shouted to the man, "Hey, I've got to go to work. Either jump or9the bridge. If you decide not to jump, tomorrow is going to be10!"
After hearing this, the man11climbed back onto the bridge, which surprised everyone. The police surrounded him immediately and12him in the back seat of the police car. The gardener13back to his truck, waiting for the traffic to move.
One of the officer14a fireman, "Who was that?" The fireman said, "I don't know. He just said he had to go to work!"
The police reported to the press that all the way to the15the man kept saying, "Tomorrow is going to be better."
One must see a future to have a future.
As Mark Twain once said, "It is not what you do not know that will hurt you the most. It is what you think you know, however, it just isn't so!"
Solar terms, also called Jieqi in Chinese, are 24 special days in the traditional Chinese calendar, (know) as the "fifth great invention" of China, solar terms show the Chinese wisdom of dividing time.
Solar terms first (appear) over 2,500 years ago. The Yellow River Basin, is the cradle of them (original), the region was China's major political, economic, cultural and agricultural center. Until the Western Han Dynasty, the 24 solar terms were well established.
Created by farmers, 24 solar terms (use) to guide farming in ancient China, indicate certain changes in seasons and climate.
In ancient times, these solar terms allowed farms to know what conditions (expect) and what farming (active) to carry out during different period of a year. What's more, most of the solar terms have rich social and cultural meanings. For example, people eat pears on the Waking of Insects and dumplings on the Winter Solstice.
Today, in the time of modern farming, traditional solar terms remain (importance). They remind us that nature is changing its rate, and they reflect the relationship between humans and nature in understanding of Chinese people.
Grandpa's Old Chair
It was the annual cleaning day for the family. John and his mom were busy cleaning the house. They cleaned upstairs, downstairs, inside and outside until everything was spotless. Exhausted, they sank into the couch. Just then, John's mom noticed an old chair that was faded and worn. That chair was for John's grandpa, who had lived
with them since John's grandma had died.
"John, come and help me." John's mom sprang to her feet. "We'll take the chair to the curb (路边). The garbage truck is picking up on our block tomorrow."
As they attempted to move the chair, John's grandpa made his way through the door. Seeing what was happening, he quickly tried to stop them. "No!" he protested. "You can't take my chair."
"But it's so old..." John's mom argued. "We'll buy you a new one."
"No," he persisted, trying to push his chair back into place.
John's mom finally let go of the chair and left the room. With a sigh of relief, the old man sank into his chair and closed his eyes.
"Grandpa, why won't you let us get rid of the chair?" John asked.
"You don't understand, John." His grandpa shook his head and said, "I sat in this chair with your grandma right here when I asked her to marry me. And I sat in this chair the night your father was born. Many years later,"
Grandpa's voice broke, "I sat in this chair when the doctor called and told me that your grandma was ill. I was lost without her, but the chair gave me comfort and warmth." The old man's sadness seemed to grow as he recalled that fateful day.
"I understand now." John looked at his grandpa and said, "This is not just any old chair. It is more like a friend."
"Yes," he nodded. "We've gone through a lot together."
However, that night, when John and his grandpa were asleep, John's mom and dad carried the chair outside. It was a starless night. Snow fell silently from the black sky and covered Grandpa's chair in a blanket of white.
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The next morning, John was woken by the garbage truck pulling up to the house.
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Hearing this, John's mom looked at his grandpa and slowly walked towards him.
